Letting go...

What do you do when someone you care about, or even love, changes?

Not only changes but changes drastically to the point you cannot stand talking to them anymore…

Whether it is from a mental disorder, life altering event or drug and/or alcohol abuse, sometime those we love most in the world become something we cannot stand. I do not believe it is wrong to hold onto the good they use to be, while letting go of the horrible they have become; be it literally, or by giving it to God.

My take (or more my experience in this matter) is to step back and separate the person they use to be, from what they have become. No matter your choice of letting go of this person forever, or just letting them go in heart, do not feel guilty about it. I think it is more unhealthy to let yourself be abused by someone who “used” to be good, than it is to distance yourself from them. There is only one type of relationship that is exempt from my stance on this and that is the relationship of your own child, you should never abandon them, EVER no matter what happens or what they do. But as for everyone else, including your own family members, it’s okay to let them go. It’s okay to free yourself from the constant pain, uproar and torment they are causing you and your life. Just never let go of the good they used to be. That in essence is your best way to not betray their better, past personhood. I know this because I am the child of an alcoholic, whom of which I have not (and will not) speak to ever again.

 Perhaps this is too personal to be a blog, but I have the feeling that somewhere, someone out there is in need of encouraging, to just let that negativity in their life go for good…

 

 

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